Introduction

The Definition of Sex
In our current culture, sex can mean a lot of things. Usually, however, the word sex is used to refer to a single sexual act. This act is limited to the penetration of a woman by a man’s penis, with the goal of the man achieving orgasm.
If we assume that sex is a behavior most people, regardless of biological sex, have interest in and participate in, we feel that this definition of sex does not adequately meet the needs of English-speaking people. There are several things at issue in this definition.
Since there is no good evidence to suggest that females are biologically less inclined towards sex or deserving of orgasm, we feel that the focus on the male orgasm is a detriment to people everywhere. We do not have to continue to accept the myths that men ‘need sex’ to survive or that men are the ones who have interest in sex and women have only an interest in emotional bonding so it is not a big deal if she doesn’t have an orgasm. While these things may be true for certain individuals, they are not true for all women and all men.
Given the lack of sensitivity within the vagina, penile-vaginal intercourse is unlikely to bring a woman to orgasm. Very unlikely. In essence, if a man achieves an orgasm from a woman’s vagina without ensuring that her needs are a priority, the sexual encounter is not one of equality.
This is not to say that it is necessary for any or all parties to achieve orgasm. People have sex for a very wide variety of reasons. People also find sexual behavior that does not focus on orgasm to be as valuable or in some cases significantly more important in their relationship than the male orgasm though p-v intercourse.
Further issues in female sexual language
Beyond this heterosexist and patriarchal definition of sex, there are much greater issues in the language women have to talk about sex. Though many of these issues are also not at an ideal level for men, women currently bear the bulk of medical, reproductive, and social difficulties with respect to sex. Thus the issues discussed here are primarily for women.
The language that exists around women and female bodies is distinctly different from its male counterpart. Words used to describe women often have a second, sexual definition. Sexuality described with respect to women is comparatively rather sparse, and commonly degrading or offensive. Language for sex that doesn’t involve a penis is virtually nonexistent. Part of this comes from the fact that men are the ones making up the slang terms for women and their sexual behavior.
Purpose
Recognizing the inadequacy of the current language for and about sex and sexual behavior, we have compiled a dictionary designed to address these issues. The words contained within are additions to or modifications of the current English language that exists around sexuality. These words are selected to avoid negative connotation. They are designed to be attractive and sexy, to give women a vocabulary they feel comfortable with using and defending. To give people in general ways to think outside the constraints of their current language to explore sex in a new way, in an egalitarian way.
We recognize that this is an ambitious undertaking. Please understand that this is the first version of what will hopefully be a work in progress. New words will be added, new ideas and experiences shared so we can all broaden our understanding and experience of sex and our sexuality.
This is by no means all there is or all there can be.
Structure
This document is, rather than sorted by alphabet in its entirety, sorted by some major categories for easier interpretation. These categories can be seen in the table of contents following this section. Words will be presented in alphabetical order in an appendix.